Work Kills Doubt
I'm feeling unstoppable. Like no matter what comes my way — nothing is stopping me now.
A client said this during one of our coaching sessions.
I asked,
On a scale of 1 to 10 — 10 is full superman-mode, 1 is 'I'm really not sure I'm up for it' — where are you today?
10.
Where were you when we started 2 years ago?
1.
It's like day and night. I see a different person in the mirror. Not just physically — mentally, energetically. I feel like others sense it too. They treat me differently, respond to me differently. And I keep thinking, is it just me? Or do they actually see it?
They see it. Confidence radiates.
You've met people like this. They don't walk in perfect. They walk in solid. Grounded. Not performing certainty, actually living it. Centered in who they are and where they're going.
We all want that place. To live fully. To unlock more of what we're capable of. To stop shrinking and start expanding.
So how do you get there?🤔
Outwork your self-doubt, I told him.
He loved it.
Your confidence didn't come by chance. You showed up for 2 years. You faced hard things. You kept going anyway. You built skills. You got results you couldn't get before. You changed — not just what you do, but who you are.
Your brain might doubt a lot of things. But it can't easily argue with the evidence. The work. The transformation others reflect back to you.
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I lied a little there.
Your brain will forget.
It forgets how much you've changed. What you've done. The skills you've built. The version of you that struggled with things that feel automatic and easy now.
That's how doubt creeps back in, even after extraordinary things. Even after getting into the best shape of your life after a decade of trying. Even after finally growing your business past the ceiling that felt permanent for decades.
Doubt doesn't care about your wins. It waits for you to stop looking at them.
That's why we reflect. Deliberately, intentionally, on paper.
One of the most important things we do in coaching is slow our clients down and make them do this work. Sit with how far they've come. What they overcame. What they've earned. How capable they've proven themselves to be.
Confidence grows as you grow but only if you keep the receipts.
When did you last feed your confidence?🌱
Over to you, dear reader,
When did you last feed your confidence?
Take out a piece of paper. Write down the hard things you've done. The skills you've built. The progress you've made. All of it.
I call this practice Confidence Stock. Take an inventory. You are more than you think.