A lot of my clients are already high-achieving individuals. Why do they come to a coach?
They set goals.
They know they want more out of life and from themselves.
They are willing to work for it.
They’re ready to make hard choices and real sacrifices, and they are already doing it.
So if they’re already doing quite well, why do they come to a coach?
Why do all elite athletes, at the very top of their game, still have coaches too? Your favorite performer, or business owner has one for sure as well.
Because once you’re performing at a high level, it becomes harder to see what’s holding you back.
The patterns that helped you win so far are often the very ones that quietly cap your next level.
Not because they’re wrong.
But because, as the saying goes, what got you here won’t get you there.
Your destination has changed.
Your way of operating has to change with it.
Trying to figure that out on your own is like trying to read the label from inside the bottle.
What high-achievers actually pay for in coaching isn’t motivation, not even discipline (although sometimes they think they need it).
It’s reflection.
Pattern recognition.
Someone who challenges their default thinking.
Questions they don’t naturally ask themselves.
Frameworks and perspectives they wouldn’t arrive at alone.
Lately, 3 questions come up again and again in my work with high-performing clients.
They help shape a path that’s clearer, more aligned, and more fulfilling. And here they are ot help you as well:
Why am I doing this?
In transitions, when “here” no longer satisfies you, but “there” isn’t clear yet, this question matters more than any plan.
Reconnecting with your core values, with what’s essential for you to stay you, doesn’t give you a 10-year roadmap right away.
What it does give you is direction.
You start laying the right bricks into the right path unfolding, following your internal compass🧭
Step by step. Brick by brick.
So that each move takes you closer to where you were meant to go all along.
What would have to be true for me to get this… or there?
Sometimes you have a clear goal or vision.
Sometimes all you have is a feeling you want more of - more fulfillment, more alignment, more calm, more contribution.
Before you can build an effective plan, you need clarity.
How would you know you’re “there”?
What would have to be true for you to actually feel fulfilled? What are the signs that will tell you - you are on the right path?
It also helps to ask the elimination question:
What would have to be NOT present in my life for this to be possible?
From there, you start building. (Or eliminating)
One piece of the puzzle at a time🧩
Am I willing,
at this time,
to make the investment required
to make a positive difference
on this topic?
(A steal from one of the world's top executive coaches - Marshall Goldsmith).
This one is especially hard for high-achievers.
You have energy.
You have options.
You have resourcefulness.
So you sprinkle yourself everywhere, until there’s a lot happening, but most of it is mediocre, and doesn't make a dent.
There’s no empty space left for mastery of what matters.
We do this one practice, following this question.
Before taking on more, we pause and ask this question.
Then we look honestly at what this project will require to do a GREAT job VS just get it done.
Time.
Energy.
Attention.
Trade-offs.
Then we look at your calendar and existing commitments and ask:
Do I actually have the capacity?
And does this even make sense given my WHY and the direction I’m committing to?
All 3 of these questions require something most high-achievers, most doers don't do enough of.
Thinking time.
On your calendar.
Unrushed.
Uninterrupted.
Unoptimized.
Without a coach, most doers skip this work.
It feels inefficient.
There’s no immediate payoff. There are more urgent things.
Nothing to post about on LinkedIn on Monday morning.
But mastery, your next level, is this messy work.
With no guaranteed timeline.
And no instant rewards.
Without accountability, most of us will never stay with it long enough.
Will you, dear reader?
These questions will help.
