Whether you’re trying to change yourself, change one other person, or shift an entire culture, the most reliable lever is always the same: ask better questions. The kind that points the mind toward a different destination.
To motivate change in clients, I routinely ask these very common in our practice questions:
Are you where you want to be?
Is what you’re doing working for you?
If not… what will you do differently?
Simple. Direct. Impossible to hide from.
If you’re a leader steering people through transformation, the real skill is learning how to ask these questions at scale. Not as an interrogation. As direction-setting. As culture-narrative-shifting.
I ask them in my weekly self-reflection sessions.
I ask them when clients lose their drive and drift away from the future they say they want.
And if I led your team meeting, you would hear them there too, not to extract a perfect or specific answer, but to build a culture where people remember that their life, their career, their impact… are ultimately in their own hands.
If you want something different, something has to change in what you consistently do. There’s no simpler truth than that.
Which even Einstein noticed, "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results" - which seems to be misattributed to him and was more widely used by the Alcoholics Anonymous, the most effective community-driven transformation program in the entire world.
So over to you, dear reader,
Are you where you want to be?
Is what you’re doing working?
And if not… what will you change?
