I got this idea from Vinh Giang — one of the best communication teachers I’ve ever learned from.
He shared,
“Every time I read a book, I set a goal to put one thing I learned into practice per chapter.”
I loved that. And decided I will have a similar practice.
I will put one thing into consistent practice from every book I read.
I've just finished reading Dealing with Feeling by Marc Brackett.
One simple idea made me stop reading. And it changed the trajectory of what I will focus on till the end of the year.
It changed my state from “I don’t know what to do. Something feels off and I don't know what to do with it” to “I know exactly what to focus on.”
The tool?
A question.
When you feel off — not anxious, not afraid, not even worried — just unsettled — ask yourself:
“How do I want to feel right now?”
I paused when I read that.
And the answer came right away:
Capable. Empowered. Confident.
"Interesting", I thought.
Then came the real unlock:
“Why don’t you feel that way? What needs to happen for you to feel it?”
That’s your next step. That’s your focus.
It’s not a mood swing. It’s a change of direction.
A beautiful reminder that emotions aren’t roadblocks - they’re signals.
Your inner GPS, asking to be recalibrated.
So, over to you dear reader, try it right now.
Ask yourself,
"How do you want to feel — and why don’t you?"