The conversation you are not having
We were walking down the street.
A friend of mine was talking. And talking. And talking.
Relationship drama.
Who did what. How they responded. How it made her feel.
Then the complaints started.
Tiny things, disappointments, expectations unmet. On and on and on.
I sped up, hoping we’d get there sooner, so I could escape the conversation, wondering, could she do the same?
I get it. Life is hard.
Stuff happens. To all of us.
But is this really what you want to give your greatest gift to? Your attention? Your thinking?
Your mental energy that creates your emotions, your actions, your future?
What you focus on, grows.
So, what are you growing?
When I wake up and my thoughts are off-track, I tune them back UP.
Podcasts. Books. Conversations.
With people who are building.
People learning, improving, showing up.
People who want to create something that matters, something beautiful, inspiring... better.
I make time for those conversations.
I start those conversations - I schedule zooms, coffee chats to make sure my mind tuned to the right radio station.
I love reading books because they hold the clearest, smartest thoughts distilled over decades, and they shape my mind as I go along.
Choose your radio station.
For the version of yourself you want to grow into, not the one you’re trying to outgrow.
Start the conversations that light you up.
That build. Solve. Empower.
And when you’re stuck in a draining one? Don’t feed it. Let it go hungry. Eventually, it'll stop.
Of course, we all feel things. We all have bad days.
Acknowledge the emotion. Process it. Then choose the next move and move on!
You have a whole life to live, to create, to move, inspire, experience, don’t let your past become a record that you force yourself to dance to.
"Two monks came to a river. A young woman needed help crossing.
The elder monk, despite their vow, picked her up, carried her across, and moved on.
Hours later, the younger monk blurted out,
“How could you carry her? We’re not supposed to touch women.”
The elder replied:
“I put her down hours ago, you are still carrying her.”
