The road of too many yesses
Every skill, every goal, every change you want to make costs time, attention, effort.
The more goals you stack up, the less each one gets. Less energy. Less mindspace. Less work.
The more you try to change at once, the lower your odds of changing anything at all!
It's like building your bicep, if you do whole body workouts each day, don't expect any one muscle stand out.
Your energy is limited. Your attention is finite. Your willpower, your capacity to keep showing up when things get hard, runs out fast when spread across too many targets.
That’s why the world’s greatest aren’t great at everything.
They’re great at one thing.
Most iconic entrepreneurs, elite athletes, prolific thinkers, they go deep on one thing. They build one thing that matters. They focus, obsess, repeat.
How many people you admire are known for multiple things?
“When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you.” — Lolly Daskal
A client told me recently, “I just feel overwhelmed. There’s so much to track.”
That was my cue to help him choose one thing to nail. Not everything. Not most things. Just one. Even though it feels like you are already behind and you got to do it all.
When everything feels important, we often default to doing it all, and end up doing none of it well, which means we don't really create any big difference, and meaningful change, we just keep doing shallow work, which gets lost as more noise.
The research backs it up,
People working on multiple goals are less committed and far less likely to succeed than those focusing on just one.
If you really care about something, you can’t afford to care about everything else.
Every extra yes chips away at what matters most.
Say yes too often, and you end up nowhere. Not here. Not there. Not excellent. Not fulfilled. Not changed. Not have grown.
Just stuck in the land of average.
What's your ONE thing?
And if you failed to succeed taking all of it on - try taking one thing on this week. I can guarantee you'll succeed.