Scheduling your week in a way that feels purposeful and fulfilling instead of busy and overwhelming?
A skill.
Learning to talk to yourself, and to others in a way that motivates to improve and try again, instead of defensiveness?
A skill.
Writing offers people want to say yes to?
A skill.
Asking questions that make people rethink their assumptions instead of protecting the status quo?
A skill.
Eating enough protein so you’re not hungry for everything else?
A skill.
Going to bed at a consistent time, even when demands and distractions, your non-stop thoughts are pulling you into action?
A skill.
Staying calm and composed when things start flying around you?
A skill.
Focusing on what you can influence instead of what frustrates you?
A skill.
Giving feedback that strengthens relationships instead of triggering fear?
A skill.
Regulating your emotions so they fuel your growth instead of sabotaging it?
A skill.
Making balanced, strategic decisions instead of biased, reactive ones?
A skill.
Placing yourself in environments - people, media, places - that bring out your best?
A skill.
Choosing long-term fulfillment over short-term gratification?
A skill.
Handling pressure so it brings out your best instead of burning you out?
A skill.
Speaking clearly and confidently in front of others?
A skill.
Bringing an unpopular truth to the table?
A skill.
Paying attention to what truly makes you feel and perform better?
A skill.
Choosing challenge over comfort and a familiar path?
A skill.
Drinking water, walking enough steps, building better relationships, leading with curiosity instead of doubt -
all skills.
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So many things we take as fixed: how people are, how work is done, how we market, lead, eat, rest, sell, love - they aren’t fixed at all!
They’re our habits. Society, mind, market habits. Patterns that have simply repeated long enough to look like immovable truth.
The real challenge ahead of us isn’t just learning new things.
It’s daring to unlearn what no longer serves us.
Outside the laws of physics, almost everything is changeable. Including you.
And if a better alternative exists, why not consider it?
It won’t change overnight.
But like any skill, with small daily reps, it will.
And one day, what once felt unnatural becomes your new normal.
Over to you dear reader, how many things can you count today that aren’t working, yet you (or people around you) keep doing them simply because it’s always been this way?
PS Breaking old habits is considered to be more challenging than learning new ones. The first step is learning to see the whole pattern - the trigger/the action/the reward. Before you can break it - you need to understand why and how it happens.
