Change often feels heavy.
A new city. A new job. A new routine.
It’s easy to fall into, “Ugh, now I have to start over,” or “What if I lose all the good stuff I had?”
But here’s a question I ask myself often:
What if it’s fun?
Or even - What if it’s better?
"Pretty soon you're seeking that distress state as a form of curiosity. As an exploration of who you are and what you're capable of. It becomes its own form of reward. One you control. If you encounter and practice this enough, it gradually supersedes the rewards of the overall goal you’re pursuing.
That’s how you make hard stuff “easy”. You internalize the process. And it is what “it’s all in your head” and “it’s about the journey, not the destination” are truly about." ~ Andrew Huberman
When you ask that, something powerful happens in your brain:
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Your focus shifts to what’s possible, not what’s missing.
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You get back into control mode, not stuck in survival mode, victim, powerless mode.
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You start moving, not overthinking.
I saw a post by neuroscientist Andrew Huberman this morning.
He explained how shifting your inner game - your self-talk, your perspective - can make hard effort feel like a reward.
That’s not woo-woo. That’s science.
And it reminded me, that, we have so much power and freedom over how we experience daily life and where we end up going.
So if you’re in a transition right now (if not you'll be soon)
Ask yourself,
What if it’s not the end?
What if it’s the beginning of the best chapter of your life?
Angela
Helping You Start Loving Change