Daily Thought for Change

Change often feels heavy.
A new city. A new job. A new routine.
It’s easy to fall into, “Ugh, now I have to start over,” or “What if I lose all the good stuff I had?”

But here’s a question I ask myself often:

What if it’s fun?
Or even - What if it’s better?

"Pretty soon you're seeking that distress state as a form of curiosity. As an exploration of who you are and what you're capable of. It becomes its own form of reward. One you control. If you encounter and practice this enough, it gradually supersedes the rewards of the overall goal you’re pursuing.

That’s how you make hard stuff “easy”. You internalize the process. And it is what “it’s all in your head” and “it’s about the journey, not the destination” are truly about." ~ Andrew Huberman

When you ask that, something powerful happens in your brain:

• Your focus shifts to what’s possible, not what’s missing.

• You get back into control mode, not stuck in survival mode, victim, powerless mode.

• You start moving, not overthinking.

I saw a post by neuroscientist Andrew Huberman this morning.
He explained how shifting your inner game - your self-talk, your perspective - can make hard effort feel like a reward.

That’s not woo-woo. That’s science.

And it reminded me, that, we have so much power and freedom over how we experience daily life and where we end up going.

So if you’re in a transition right now (if not you'll be soon)

Ask yourself,

What if it’s not the end?
What if it’s the beginning of the best chapter of your life?

Angela
Helping You Start Loving Change

"In Give and Take, Adam Grant tells the story of call center employees on the edge of burnout—until one small shift changed everything. After meeting just one student whose scholarship was funded by their work, their motivation soared. With no change in hours or pay, their performance doubled. Why? Because they saw the meaning in what they did.

When people connect their work to real impact, they don’t burn out—they light up."

Lately, people have been telling me:

“You should have more fun.”
“Go out more.”
“Maybe you’ll get lucky if you just relax.”

I get it. They mean well.
But let me tell you something I’ve learned from watching the greats and walking the path towards meaning.

1. Mastery isn’t magic. It’s reps.

You don’t become a world-class athlete, writer, leader or entrepreneur because you’re lucky. Won't you agree? You get there because you choose to show up. Again and again. You choose to get undeniably great by putting in draconian effort.

I get jealous in the best kind of way when I see people being exceptional.
When someone speaks and the room goes silent.
When someone builds a product that helps millions.
When someone masters their craft.

I get chills and goosebumps!

And what I’ve seen - and heard from those I admire, from research on peak performance and skill acquisition – is this:
No reps = no mastery.
No shortcuts.

Just time, tension, tiny improvements, deliberate practice.

When you see someone being great - there are countless hours of work put in the shadow.

This is what lights me up.
Not passive “happiness,” but the thrill of progress.
Of doing meaningful work. Of serving.
Of getting better. Sharper. More useful to others.

2. Happiness looks different for different people.

What brings me joy?

➤ Getting better at what I do.
➤ Seeing it impact more people.
➤ Spending time with a few people who matter.
➤ Feeling useful.

Service, mastery, and meaningful impact.
That’s what I optimize for.
That’s what fuels me.

That's my drive!

3. Rest? Yes. But not the kind you're sold into.

I sleep 8 hours a night. I take breaks. I hike mountains weekly.
But I don’t plan my recovery around Friday nights or lazy Sundays just because “everyone does it.”

Rest is biological. Weekends are a societal invention, boundaries to be re-evaluated.
And I believe there’s a different kind of rest that comes from living in alignment with your purpose. (Adam Grant's research seems to agree)
Working on something your soul believes in is more energizing than lying on a couch or "having fun"

I don’t live for the ordinary.

And that's what my calendar shows.

I’m here to serve.
To grow. To do great work. To challenge others to become their best.

Ask yourself this today, dear reader:

Is your daily life designed around what truly fulfills you?
Or are you following someone else's template for happiness?

What drives you?

With love & fire,
Angela
Helping You Stay the Course🧭

💬 P.S. Drop your thoughts in the comments. Let’s learn and grow together.

Nudge - don’t push. Step - don't leap.

Helping people change what they do? That’s my thing.

Behavior change isn’t small.
When you change behavior - you change everything else:
Better results. Better habits. Better teams. Better business. Better people.

I’ve been reading another book on change—about turnarounds and transformations.

One thing I loved in it:
It wasn’t about changing minds or fixing beliefs, fixing people.
It was about nudges.
Tiny adjustments that make the right behavior easier. It changed entire organizations without draconian overhauls.

Nudges work because they respect the brain.

Your brain’s main job?
Save energy.
It’s not looking for deep thinking or moral debates, or the biggest change out there.
Your brain wants default settings.
Low effort. Clear path.

Nudges provide that.
They make the desired action easy enough to just happen. No change of beliefs or person required.

There’s a model supported by research that talks to that by Dr. BJ Fogg:

Behavior = Motivation × Ability × Prompt

Nudges increase ability (make it simpler).
They also act as prompts (reminders to act).
So you get more action… with a lot less push.

I’m seeing this in my own work all the time. I stopped trying to change people - I started helping them make new behavior easy. When you change what you do, overtime, YOU change.

I'm working on my sales and offers and I caught myself thinking, perhaps I'm asking too much too fast?
Buy in. Go deep. Decide fast. But maybe, instead of asking for commitment, I could make it easier to take one small step towards the solution?

Lower the lift.
Remove friction.
Let momentum do the work.

When we try to change what we do, or what others do, it’s useful to ask not how do I make them change their mind, or who they are, but how can I make the decision/action I want easy and simple for them?

Coach Angela,

Today marks 100🥳 (It was my #EntrepreneurMarathon)

100 days of waking up before 5am.
100 days of choosing what matters most:
my work, my health, my people.

I’m not there yet.

But I’ve learned something important:
When you show up, things shift, you grow… and are we EVER there?
You grow. You see what’s holding you back.
And you get to choose—
Work through it?
Or run away and chase “greener grasses”?

Day 100 also marks book #30.
I aimed for 33.
Didn’t hit it.
But I showed to myself—
I can learn fast - IF I make the time for it (calendar).

🎯 I thought I’d have big projects out by now, business-wise.
Instead? I’ve had real conversations.
I listened more.
Refined my offer.
Learned what people actually want. Further than ever - and yet not there :)

🥳I built a website I love. (Working with others)
Check it out here.

The coolest thing—
I built my own way of helping people change.
A method that works, I got it from 17 years of working and thinking, 17 years of learning.
Years of work. One clear system.
Feels good.

100 days. Some lessons that I hope to never forget:

💥 Most things don’t matter. Learn what matters to YOU.
🛑 Saying NO is a life-changer. Don’t waste time on things that you won’t remember in 100 days :)
🌱 No reps, no gainz. Effort is everything. Don’t get frustrated - put more, better reps in. Nothing great is EVER easy. Adjust expectations.
📅 If you want a masterpiece tomorrow—master today. There’s no later in growth.
🛠️Stay true to yourself. Build with others.
🤍 Lift others as you rise. Kindness first.

Building awesome things that matter with people you like is the best fun of all!

Bad days will come.
Life throws curveballs.
Sometimes, you’ve got to fix the plumbing instead of painting the masterpiece.
That’s life.
But when the sun’s out?
Build.
Use it for what matters the most.

The biggest downer - regret, that you haven’t lived your days true to what matters to you.

And if you want joy, clarity, freedom?
Know what you want.
Then work on it.
Even if it takes 10 years—
It’ll be the best ride of your life!

Let’s grow. Together.

Angela
Helping Your Best Stay in Growth 🌱